Hey, Mama! Let’s be real , if you’ve got a preschooler at home, then you’ve definitely been here: You ask your little angel to put on their shoes, and instead, they suddenly have a desperate need to find the one blue crayon that’s been missing since last year. And just like that, you’re locked in a battle of “Can you hear me now?!” like some desperate phone commercial from the 2000s.
I get it. Been there. Heck, I’m probably still there. But after diving headfirst into the wonderful, wacky world of preschooler psychology (a.k.a. parenting survival training), I’ve gathered some tried-and-true tips that actually work , without turning you into a fire-breathing dragon mom. Let’s dive in!
1. Get Down to Their Level (Literally)
Ever notice how you’re always yelling at your preschooler from halfway across the house? Turns out, kids listen way better when you’re at their eye level. Kneel down, make eye contact, and speak in a calm voice. You’ll be amazed at how much better they respond when you’re not looming over them like the Big Bad Wolf.
2. Use Fewer Words (A.K.A. The Less-Talk-More-Action Rule)
Preschoolers have the attention span of a goldfish with Wi-Fi issues. So, keep it short and sweet. Instead of a long-winded speech about why they should clean up their toys, try: “Toys away, please.” Simple. Direct. Effective.
3. Turn It Into a Game
Kids love games, so why not make listening part of the fun? Instead of saying, “Brush your teeth,” say, “I bet you can’t brush your teeth before I count to ten!” Boom. Instant motivation. And if you throw in a silly victory dance when they succeed? Bonus points.
4. Give Choices (But Not Too Many)
Preschoolers are tiny dictators who crave power. So, let them feel like they have some control. Instead of, “Get dressed now,” try, “Do you want the dinosaur shirt or the superhero shirt?” Both options work for you, but your kiddo feels like they’re calling the shots.
5. Praise the Good Stuff (Loudly and Often)
We’re all guilty of focusing on the negatives. But the truth is, kids respond SO much better to positive reinforcement. When your little one actually listens the first time (hallelujah!), celebrate it! “Wow, you listened so well! High five!” The more you notice their good behavior, the more they’ll want to repeat it.
6. Establish Routines Like a Pro
Preschoolers thrive on routine like coffee addicts thrive on caffeine. When they know what’s coming next, they’re much more likely to follow through. So, create a simple routine chart with pictures if needed. And don’t be afraid to bust out the “Clean-Up Song” , it’s cheesy but ridiculously effective.
7. Stay Calm and Breathe (Even When You Want to Scream)
Here’s the truth, Mama: Sometimes, your kid just won’t listen. And that’s okay. The key is keeping your cool. Deep breaths. Count to ten. Channel your inner zen master. Because losing it only makes them shut down more.
The Bottom Line:
Preschoolers are adorable little chaos machines, but with some patience, humor, and a whole lot of love, you can absolutely get them to listen without losing your mind. So, next time you’re about to yell, try one of these tips instead. You’ve got this, Mama! And if all else fails, there’s always coffee. Lots of coffee.
Got any tricks of your own? Share them in the comments! We mamas need all the help we can get.